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euuhh! That is disgusting!

Euhh! Yuck!

I am probably ranting as opposed to writing with this post today! It is so annoying the way people show case their ignorance and lack of basic manners in expressing their dislike for anything that is foreign to their everyday experience.

Show someone a cultural experience or ask them to taste a spicy dish that is uncommon to their everyday experience, and they come up with “that is horrible” or “that is disgusting”.

When will people learn to understand that the horrible or disgusting experience is personal to them alone. If one person out of every hundred in the world can enjoy a thing, then there is nothing wrong with the activity or product or thing.

There is absolutely nothing wrong in saying “I don’t like it “. or “I find it not to my taste”. That is still a true expression of your feeling.

Learning to express your experience as personal to you is basic manners rather than showing absolute lack of grace. Simple ways of expressing your experience can be:

  • Sorry, It is not my thing. (Your facial expression will automatically tell the story)
  • I don’t like it or that is different (For more cultured people who are conscious about other people’s awareness).
  • I find it disgusting or I find it horrible (For people that really want to express the extent of their intolerance. Your personification of your FIND experience shows your feelings).

Some people think it is posh to knock other cultural experiences by saying “it is disgusting or it is horrible”, without realizing they are the one’s being pitied by their sheer display of lack of grace.

It is also a reflection of people who blame others for their own short comings and who fail to take responsibility for their actions.

If you belong to that category, check yourself. Respect and tolerance should be evident in all that we say and do.

All in all, the onus lies on us as change agents to raise our children with good manners, as a reflection of positive upbringing and understanding of equality and diversity in the society.

Also to comport ourselves in like manner. After all, children do what they see and not what they are told.

Rant concluded!

Remember! #YHTK. Only you, hold the key!

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The small things – Getting ahead

The year is just in and days will roll over each other, then it’s December again. Don’t forget to celebrate your small wins as you daily go about achieving your dreams and visions. The small wins leads to the big victory.

No matter how small they are, they all add up. Setting deadlines, meeting goals, saving costs, saving time, innovative ideas, creative suggestions,taking notes, marking off checklist and so on. Trust me, they all add up.

Be proud to share your small wins at the end of the page and encourage someone else to be like you. Together for your success.

You are Entitled

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Don’t wait for anybody to bring it to you because you may wait forever. Time spent with family, friends, work colleagues and loved ones build memories of a life time. Memories of happy, sad and eventful times.  However, the decision to be happy in life in spite of every storm you go through is a choice decision.

You may not know where the next meal is coming from but you can still choose to be happy. You may not know how to pay the piling bills and still choose to be happy.  Difficult times don’t last, even when they appear bleak sometimes.  They eventually pass.

To be happy is not for the rich or the poor. It is a choice thing and everyone is entitled to it. Don’t expect it from anybody.  It is your right with your name on it.

Only you hold the key #YHTK

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Looking forward

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Working in the hospitality industry exposes one to various aspects of life. Corporate business people going to lunch together and discussing business over lunch, people with set habit of eating same thing year in, year out. Breakfast on poached eggs, and lunch on bacon and cheese toastie with brown sauce. Group of 5 teachers coming out to lunch every Friday and have done so for the last 10 years+.

Two men used to come out for breakfast at least once a week to a cafe in Dublin, and every time argue over who is going to pay. The younger man often winning. I once said to the two of them that I don’t mind taking both payments and the younger man laughed and said “that’s my dad”.  That, blew me away because of the mutual love and respect that I have witnessed between them.  Since then, I weekly looked forward to seeing them.

Another group of ladies in their 50s/60s come out to the Falcon in Fotheringhay weekly for lunch, to experience time out in a lovely beautiful and historical British restaurant. The booking sheet usually read “The ladies”. The women choosing to hang out and enjoy that season of their lives and friendship together. I call it beautiful.

To every season in life, there is anticipation and trepidation. A time to work and a time to play, a time to sow and a time to harvest. No one has the final call on life, but as long as there is breath in you and a time called day and night, every season should be filled with building happy memories.

I wholeheartedly look forward to retirement with joy and anticipation, knowing that not working but working, is filled with purposeful happy days ahead making a difference and hanging out with family and friends.

What do you look forward to?