Appointment with Destiny (3)

I would describe myself as an ordinary person who is easy to get along with. I have 4 main passions in life namely:

  1. God
  2. My husband
  3. My 2 boys
  4. Fitness/healthy living

The mandate upon my life is simply to be an exemplary wife and mother as I support my family in the call God has placed on our lives to be an example of a good Christian family.

I asked Danielle some of the same questions Janet Attwood from Healthy, Wealthy and Wise asked some inspirational leaders of our time, and here are her responses. My prayer, as you read this is that your faith level will increase, your divine purpose be clarified, and your determination to fulfill the call of God on your life, grow stronger with the dawn of each new day.


Who has been the most influential person in your life? The person who has most affected the person you are today?


 What is your day like?

I wake up between 05.15am and 05.30am. I pray with my husband till about 06.00am,  then we  go downstairs together to make smoothie for the family. The kids usually wake up during this time and we send the kids to do their own prayer time, they come back and discuss what they have read with us and then we all go to the gym till about 07.15am, then get ready for school/work. If I am doing the school run we aim to leave home for about 7.50am and leave the school at 08.30am, get to work at about 08.45am.  I start work at 09.00am and try to finish at the latest at 06.30pm if I’m on-call and earlier if I’m not. We have dinner together as a family at about 06.45pm, (my husband usually would have picked the kids up, bathed them and done most of their homework) After dinner, we all clear up and then go upstairs and sit with the kids to find out about their day and finish homework and the kids go to  bed at 08.15pm – 08.30pm. Then I catch up with housework or chat with my husband and at 09.00pm, my husband and I will pray together, I go to bed after this or catch up on more work

What are the things that you just cannot do without?

 I cannot do without praying twice a day at the very least, smoothie daily and Gym (I try at least four times a week).  But my smoothie, not negotiable.

Would this be your priority no matter what else?

Yes. God first then smoothie – Anywhere in the world and if we do not have access to a smoothie maker, we substitute smoothie for fresh fruit. Thank God, you can take God anywhere!

 What is your current vocation?

I work as a General practitioner

What attracted you to your current vocation?

The flexibility that comes with it. I started training as a Pediatrician but found it was not family friendly and I had to decide what was more important to me -career or family? So I left Paediatrics before I got too deep in it.

What are you most concerned about?

To raise a Godly family and be a good example.

Why is that so important – how did that come up?

 It all began with a vision God gave us.  My husband’s name is Babatunde, we call him Baba (which in my language means father).  God revealed to him he will be a father of many nations just like Abraham and his generation being blessed.  We see ourselves in that Abrahamic line. Also like Priscilla and Aquilla who were mere church helpers.  We are convinced we have no pastoral calling or some high leadership role, but our calling is to be helpers.  To stir up and encourage other people’s visions and therefore we open our home for Church use for example hosting guest preachers, youth social events, home group or such needs as we can accommodate.  For this role, you need to live an exemplary life to be able to impact your community and that is what we do and why it is important to us.

(to be continued)

ThAT’s JuSt THe WaY It iS

Queen B

Appointment with Destiny (2)

Below is a copy of the mail I sent to Danielle after interviewing her and her reply:

—–Original Message—–
From: Busola Shogbamimu
Date: Mon, 4 Jan 2010 14:15:38
Subject: re: remaining questions

Hi Dupe,

Honestly if I could open up my heart for you to see how much I have been blessed by your life tonight, I would.  Immediately I dropped the phone I had to call my friend Adeline to tell her I have just spoken to someone whose yardstick is longer.  I respect her values a lot and now you. wow!!

It is so clear you guys are perfectly matched. Adeline has a ministry here in Dublin and I am a very big supporter of her vision.  She has a mandate to relieve women that are hurting by showing practical love. Some of the groups dominant here are single women. If God wills, it will be a great honor to have you address them at an informal forum, so they know there is light for them along the way and not just at the end of the tunnel.

Thanks and thanks and thanks again Dupe.  Big respect to your husband for his love and obedience as a servant of God and a man after God’s own heart.

I attach the rest of the questions and do look forward to chatting with you very soon.

Much love

Busola Shogbamimu

Her reply:

Re: remaining questions

Again it was really good talking to you. At some stages I was beginning to think that it all sounded unreal. Infact I think this is the first time I’ve ever thought so deeply about my life and what has shaped me. For me, it actually makes me appreciate Tunde even more. Please, don’t get me wrong, he has his faults like anyone else and we sure do have our squabbles, but he is perfect for me and neither of us is ever too proud to say sorry. I think that is another valuable aspect of our relationship. It will be interesting to read your summary when you have collated all the info. My life/marriage is a testimony and I look forward to another 60yrs of marriage. Tunde and I have trusted God to live till we are 100. Considering we are both 40 in a few weeks, we’ve got plenty of time ahead. I could go on forever!! It’s a good thing we decided to do the rest of the questions by e-mail cos I’ll need to check the accounts to answer them. Hope to speak to u soon and I am glad to hear you feel encouraged. We serve an awesome God and he sure works if we stick to the straight and narrow.

Love Dupe

(to be continued……….. coming up, Meet Danielle Dupe Akomolafe)

ThAT’s JuSt THe WaY It iS

Queen B

Appointment with Destiny (1)


Psalms 89:34 My covenant will I not break, nor alter the thing that is gone out of my lips. KJV

 Once I say it, then it comes to pass. I do not tempt or tease my children with false hopes or false promises. My Word has no equals in speed, accuracy, or power. There is no greater force in the universe than the words that come out of my mouth. It is the life of all mankind’s true existence. It destroys the vain life and it creates permanence for the transient, wandering soul. It calms the restless, satisfies the empty, and eliminates the recurring contentions of life. If I say it, I will do it. I cannot tell a lie, just like water cannot be dirt. I cannot be defeated, deceived, tempted, or diminished. No one has My wisdom, strength, or power. Those who claim it will always disappear. I have formed a partnership with you, and it will never be broken. We are one. What I have is yours. Use it to do good. Bless someone as I have blessed you.

Prophesy by Pastor Ivan Tait of “what matters ministries and missions” to his ministry partners and subscribers on 6th January 2010.

As I picked up the keyboard to send the invitation letter to be a contributor to this project, I was thinking to myself, it has been well over 11years since I spoke with her, will she have the time?, will she be willing? Then, something inside of me just said, “What do you have to lose?” Thanks to Facebook, I got her email address and sent it and there was no reply.  I left it for a couple of weeks, then I was talking to my sister one day and she said “I think Danielle mentioned receiving some questions from you”, immediately I finished with my sister on the phone, I went to my mail box and there she was online and I thought let’s do it.

When I called her, first thing I reminded her was one of my encounters with her when I was a teenager.  You see, Danielle was my older sister’s friend and once,  I had gone to see my sister at the university for the weekend. So, Danielle took me to the school theatre to watch a play. (She was being nice to her friend’s little sister), not wanting me to be bored. While we were at the theatre, she told me “Don’t be like your sister” and I laughed it off.  This is because my sister was a born again Christian, even when it was not cool to be so, and would be classed as boring.  Even I considered her boring then. But, she always stood her ground for what she believed in.  As I reminded Danielle of this age long advice, she was surprised and said “Wow! I said that?” and we both laughed it off. I have heard my sister and her husband talk about how Danielle and her husband were impacting on the lives of the youth in their community and making admirable success in their lives.  So, I thought, let me talk to her myself, and I definitely was not prepared for the blessings I got from conducting the interview.  Sometimes, you know what scripture says, yes it is head knowledge, yes you know you need to carry it out, but when you come in contact with people who are actually living it, that completely blows your mind away.

(to be continued)

ThAT’s JuSt THe WaY It iS

Queen B

Hello Everyone!


Many times we embark on a project with good intentions.  To support, to promote, to elevate, to inspire, to create awareness or to make profit.  I am yet to see or meet any serious minded person out there, who started a project with the sole intention of failing.

Yet, we do fail due to several reasons. Lack of preparedness, over excitement to begin, fear of failing, procrastination, bad choices, etc .  These are just some of the reasons why we fail. Failure  however is not the end of the story, it is merely a small chapter in the entire book.  Only, if we refuse to stay on the ground.  People view failure in different context,the same way we view success in different contexts.

Success to some people is the accumulation of wealth, while to others it is capacity to bring permanent change in another person’s life.  Our perspectives and priorities are as different as our upbringing and environment.  Our values and sense of social responsibility are so varied, and reflects in  the society we cultivate through our personal and public habits.

I consider myself privileged to be part of the present generation. Not because I have it all put together, or because majority around me are basking in visible wealth. But because a greater percentage of this generation, have the foresight to look back, give back, build and look out for the next generation. We are part of the sustainability awareness generation, we are part of the eat what you need and plan for tomorrow’s generation.

Do we have the answers to change tomorrow? Of course not. Do we have the road map to make that change? No we don’t!  But, we keep trying in our daily lives and making a difference one day at a time.  Remember, little drops of water, make the  mighty ocean. Change is that positive little thing you do today, that makes a difference in another person’s life. Sometimes it goes beyond your imagination, but you didn’t even know, because you are doing what you know how to do.

Success is living a contented and well balanced life, reflecting in every area of your person. Success is accumulation of wealth, only when wealth is defined as positively affecting other people’s lives. Success is you and I, doing our little bit to change our world today and teaching our children to do the same for tomorrow.


ThAT’s  JuSt THe WaY It iS

Queen B

Pathway to Success – Parenting

Couple of years ago, my kids were all in primary school and as a young parent, I had so many questions that I asked myself and sometimes would ask other parents as well. I wondered; What age it was considered safe for them to walk home by themselves from school?  What age was it safe for them to stay home by themselves? What age was it considered right for them to start dating? and so many questions all bordering around safety and responsibility.

As a doting parent, I wanted to get it right without stifling my children or depriving them of necessary moral values as well. I wanted the channel for them to be themselves, be assertive among their peers without being domineering. I wanted them to be confident and be comfortable in any environment without being loud or unruly. I wanted them to take ownership of responsibility and not shy away. I desired for them to be honest in all things even if it will cost them, knowing they acted truthfully should be enough gain. I wondered also if other parents wondered as I did.

My goal is to raise children that are proud of their background, proud of their heritage, have a good sense of compassion and be upright citizens.  What I found in the process was, there is no one way to parenting. What works in Paul’s family, may not necessarily work with Peter’s family. More so, in the same family, what works with one child, many not work with another child. I learnt quickly that as Parents, for us to achieve success in raising our children, we  need to study each child individually to understand what approach will work in individual cases.


ThAT’s  JuSt THe WaY It iS

Queen B

You are what you believe

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