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I am a young woman who is passionate about making a difference in the world. Sometimes it seems like a huge project but I am not daunted considering how large the world itself is. I start with my immediate environment and try and touch one life at a time positively, a word of encouragement, advise, an exchange of idea or information, a helping hand. One person at a time, one day at a time - little drops of water make a mighty ocean and I, refuse to be extinct before my time.

Power House

What works with what?

As the year steadily draws to a close, a lot of people are preparing for the festive season. Christmas and the New year. Some are planning for the next year because typically the end of the year is a time of reflection and planning for new heights and adventure for the coming year.

Soon it will be January. You will shortly be asked “What is your New Year Resolution? ” or hear someone ask another the same question. Every right thinking human being wants success on all levels. I recall my sister telling me about a friend of hers whose family Christmas tradition included an accountability session. Every child comes to explain what they have achieved and share their goals for the coming year. I am not at their dinner table or at any of their accountability sessions. I did not know they even did anything of such. What I do know and that is apparent to the whole world is the level of success in this family.

What brought this about is my understanding of how great the mind is. The mind is truly the power house. The creation room, the process and the completion. The board room and factory as well as the marketing place of all that you are. In your mind, what you say to yourself and believe, is what you will execute. What you believe about yourself is what you will introduce yourself as. Someone once said, some people say they are not sales agents and so cannot pitch anyone. But once you introduce yourself to someone with your name and what you do, you have already started the selling process.

The mind as the power house needs to be cultivated with intention. The rave about mindfulness is nothing if you have no intentions. Bring your ideas, your plans and desires to your power house. Become intentional and reflective about every aspect of your life. Do you want to see magic happen? Then follow the steps simple steps below.

  • Wake up with intention to achieve your goals
  • Carry out task with a mindful attitude. (I am doing this task to achieve this goal)
  • Reflect on your success, celebrate your wins and choose improvement areas
  • Go to bed planning for tomorrow with a mindful attitude
  • Keep a journal that documents your path and guides you.

In a short space of time, you will be amazed at what levels of success you can achieve with this simple strategy. The time for clarity is now and you hold the key. Sometimes a little tweaking of other people’s success levels is what you need to energize you. Be mindful of every action. Be consistent and watch your dreams become a 3D reality for you.

#YHTK

Reflection

They can see it too!

Not too long ago, I had the opportunity to have one of my life goals accomplished after spending years of looking for the right location, finding the funds to get started and eventually finding a fully kitted restaurant where I took it over as a going concern.

The week before the take over, I had the urge to clean out my space, documents, house and pretty much every area around me needed to have clarity. This was because my subconscious was aware of a new beginning and my mind understood clarity was needed for me to think and take concise actions.

Few years later when I ran into financial difficulties, my state of mind at the time was reflected once again in my environment. All I could see around me was chaos and clutter. Overwhelm became a regular visitor in my head until I took control of my life to find a solution to that situation as well.

The last two days I have spent in a workshop for a self development course, and I marvel once again as I watched the personality of trainers reflecting in all that was done at the weekend. They gave much by way of content, standards, synergy and class. They were super generous and efficient without asking us to break the bank or get in debt to be able to go the next mile.

I don’t normally do this, but I cannot help but do a shout out to Alison Mackenzie and Darren Jenkins of X10 effect. To the lovely friendly staff and excellent meal service at the Sheraton Skyline hotel Heathrow, You guys rock! To trainers and coaches in transformation industry, keep in mind that just as you are in the industry to transform lives, remember also that your personality and especially your motive reflects in your delivery.

To everyone reading this, remember that self development is the greatest gift you can give yourself and your best investment is You. After all, #YHTK

In the waiting room

What have you decided?

A good friend of mine is waiting by her brother’s bed side all day, watching his condition get worse as he is in palliative care. She is anxious and tearful most nights at the thought of losing a loved one to cancer. The outcome expected is no doubt a negative one with nothing to be done but wait and try to make his last days as beautiful as can possibly be. She is in the waiting room.

I am waiting earnestly for a positive response to a request made to someone whose contribution to society inspires me a lot, so that I in turn can continue to add value in my own little way to people in my world. Naturally being a hopeless optimist, I am 100% hopeful of a yes answer. I am in the waiting room.

Someone somewhere under the radar of the sun today is waiting for a partner to put to bed, another waiting for the promotion to be approved, another waiting for the bank to say yes to the credit line request, another waiting for the publisher to say yes, or for the partner to agree to the marriage proposal. Someone waiting for the judge’s hammer to decide their fate or for the train to come on time.

If you check yourself today, you too are in the waiting room for one thing or the other. I am waiting to retire next year and impact the world more with my extra free time. What are you waiting for?

What happens in the waiting room is more important than being in the waiting room. You can allow your brain to frizzle with fear or rise above to the next level. You can plan on your positive outcome or if negative, plan a positive next step of action. You can be paralysed or become a giant threading on every obstacle.

In the waiting room, victims and victors are born. We were born to rule the planet and the tools for success are all within us. Charge up your thoughts today and rise to the next level. Mandela’s prison cell was a waiting room for immense victory. Wherever you are today, remain limitless. A free mind can never be caged. Remember always that #YHTK (You Hold The Key). Your life, your terms.

Tell us about your waiting room experience and the outcome, we would love to learn from you.

Transition

What do you see? What do they see?

A couple of years ago, I was listening to Andrew Wommack’s message on the way in to work. He was preaching to a congregation of christian believers and he asked the question “if someone falls down dead right now, would you believe that I can raise him from the dead?” He went on to explain how most of the people in the audience believed he could but if he called anyone of them out to raise the dead person up alive, most of them do not believe in themselves to perform such a miracle.

Reason being that, Andrew before the congregation is already perceived as “holy” and trusted. Andrew went on to explain that each person judged themselves inadequate to perform such a feat because they are conscious of their short comings, doubt and sin. but they do not know if his sins are greater than theirs. Basically trying to make them understand that limiting beliefs is what stops any man from actualizing themselves.

In our every day journey to succeed, we go through different stages. I believe at least 98% of property investors did not start of with a portfolio of properties from the get go, but steadily built one up. Some people did their building process while still working a 40 hour/week job. I discover if you introduce yourself as a property investor, instantly people’s mind go into how many properties do you have in your portfolio. They fail to see that there are many strategies to property investment, including sending money on errand through crowd funding or development platforms, leveraging, joint ventures or packaging deals.

This is the same in every project we aspire to achieve and not just limited to property investing. In that same success journey, we will encounter different signals. Positivity, optimism, desire, dreams, available usable resources, leverage and many more things create a green light in us to go out there and chance our dream. Your family, friends and work colleague seeing you every day struggling with the same work process you have always done will mostly see red or amber lights as they probably see a dreamer, doubter, same guy with a head in the cloud.

Now, irrespective of what colour light anyone chooses to see including yourself, your journey to success is a transition process only if you believe in yourself to get there and to take take every obstacle in your way as a character forming stepping stone or challenge. The one best thing you can do to your doubters is to show up with your results. Not at their pace, but at your pace.

It’s another winning Monday and I implore you all to stay on green and remain undefeated. Grab your focus, shine your eyes and go for gold!

After all #YHTK

Becoming debt free

Pick up the phone and talk to someone

I recall my days as a customer service agent for a utility company. It was in the peak of the recession in Ireland and we were meant to be advising on why the bills are higher, why customers were getting disconnected or going on a different plan. It used to reap my heart out to listen to people crying on the phone and asking me how they were supposed to explain no electricity to their children who is writing the leaving certificate.

Racking up arrears in bills and debts is something that can happen to anyone. If your stream of income is cut off or reduced without backup, or unexpected illness affecting your ability to work with no insurance, or company relocation or business winding up suddenly. My point is nobody opts willingly to be in a negative situation.

But when it happens, it simply has to be dealt with. Burying your head in the sand and wishing it will go away is not a solution. Neither is ignoring the calls of your creditors. I know and can tell from my past experience that this style never works.

If you find yourself in arrears or struggling to keep up with your bills, your best solution is to call the company and explain your situation. Sometimes, they have options in place for cases such as yours. Call up and explain, go into payment arrangement to split the bill into manageable portions. If for some reason, you are not able to catch up still, think of rolling over the outstanding balance with the incoming bill and refresh your payment arrangement. Make sure to be chipping at the arrears, no matter how little.

Note one thing for certain, your creditors need you. They need you to be in good health physically and financially, so that you can pay them what you owe. They need you to be back on your feet so you come back a better customer. They need you as a customer as it saves them the additional cost of replacing you as a customer. You also need them to stay in business so they can continue to deliver the service to you.

Being in debt is not the end of life. It can be a season if you are proactive to snap out of it and keep communicating and continuously reducing it no matter how small. The same way little savings here and there can quickly build a wealthy nest, so does little debts here and there can eventually land you on the street with no shirt on your back.

Be wise! After all #YHTK

My father’s race

I remember clearly how daddy wanted me to continue to take science classes even after I failed woefully in my third year exams. Back then in secondary school, your results in third year determines if you are following through to a science, art or commercial class for your leaving certificate exams.

I was clearly an art or commercial student, but my dad wanted me to be a science student by all means. How I got 6% in chemistry exam and 30% overall was beyond me. Summer coaching class and daddy insisted I continue doing sciences. In one of the classes, the teacher, Mr. Mustafa looked at me and said he had never seen me before. I had to remind him I was in the same class with Funsho his daughter. I wasn’t missing his classes too but was more of a fly on the wall than a student in class.

Thankfully, the school was adamant about it and refused to let me continue in a science class with the appalling grades I had.

Thirty years later, when I first put my experience into writing and gave my dad my first book to read, being the gentleman he was, he was full of apology. But, I thanked him because I understood that he was trying to give me the best opportunity the only way he knew of. I was grateful because I had a first hand experience of a fish trying to climb a tree and I purposed not to make any fish climb a tree.

I was grateful of the opportunity because his persistence forced me to a self discovery journey. I found my identity in a wholesome way. I found purpose along that journey, strengths and weaknesses, likes and dislikes, tolerances and boundaries and above all, transformation.

I encourage you to discover yourself today and live a wholesome life on your own terms. After all #YHTK

Sneak Peak

Picture from celebritieswhogive.com

A beautiful and true quote I came across while working on my new book says “Once you believe you can do something, there is not a single person in the universe who can convince you otherwise.” – Germany Kent.

Now, for those who don’t know. Germany Kent is an LA-based former award-winning college administrator and corporate executive, author, entrepreneur, turned successful Hollywood commercial actress, and media personality, She has interviewed Oscar, Emmy, Golden Globe, and Grammy-winning performers, this in addition to the other power-players, and news-makers. she has interviewed from across the globe. Germany has been featured in numerous print media. She has had a string of good luck with the Film/TV world, especially noting that she was hand-selected by J.J. Abrams to be featured in a STAR WARS movie. More importantly, she is an award winning global ambassador for hope.

Words like Germany’s quote above cause deep reflections for me. For someone like Germany Kent to say something like that, you can tell it stems from a place of experience. This is evidenced in the vast diversity of roles, from academics, to media to business and more she had played in her life. For all the achievers you come across in life, it is because they believed in themselves. Some people believe in the universe to converge the forces of nature to make things happen for them and because of their belief, their expectations get fulfilled.

Some call it the law of attraction; others call it faith. Some call it affirmations; others call it confession or declarations. All in all it is working for everyone according to their belief system.

What I find striking with the above quote is the fact that it is amazingly true. It begs on the question of identity. If you know who you are, you will know what you are capable of doing, and as such your belief system automatically convinces you what you can and cannot do. If you have the resources to do it or not, it does not matter. Once you believe you can, no human being born or invented in the universe can convince you otherwise.

What is standing in the way of your belief? What do you think is stopping you from achieving your desired style of living. Please feel free to drop your thoughts in the comment below.

If you believe you can; you are right. If you believe you cannot; you are also right. I know #YHTK. So let’s hear your thoughts.