Finally, I conclude on Danielle\’s story by sharing the rest of her interview with you today. Please read on.
Have you found your passions are changing, as you grow older?
I think it has peaked because I don’t think it can change much more. It has changed a lot in the last ten years, drastically since I got married. I now have a defined purpose and a lot of maturity. Also, we both plan to retire at the age of fifty, at the very latest. Then we can team up with some charitable organizations and go to underdeveloped places and work on voluntary basis. At the moment, the children are encouraged as we have them linked to a Ministry sponsoring a child each.
Can you remember a time when you weren’t living your passion and how that impacted your life? How was your success?
When I was doing Paediatrics, I thought Paediatrics was my passion but the turning point in my life was about six months before I got married. I had dated my husband in Nigeria, and then he had received a word from God that I was his wife and he was convinced about this. We went on a 40day prayer and fasting, at the end of which I came back to tell him I did not hear a thing! I was comfortable for us to be friends and date however after I came over to the Uk, I lost interest in the relationship. He, on the other hand, could not move on, because he was convinced he heard a Word from God and he is not the type to waiver or be double minded.
I got into another relationship later and was preparing for my traditional wedding, with guests already invited. Then, I heard clearly in my spirit that I was making a big mistake. So I broke off the relationship. But when he (my husband) heard I was getting married to someone else, he still held on and was still seeking God’s face for asking for a double conviction so he could move on with his life. I was not in touch with him at this stage.
Several months after my other relationship broke up, through what I can only describe as a miracle, we got linked up again. I went praying to God and was very honest and open before God: I told God I wasn’t in love with him and also because my husband is only six days older than me, I felt he was immature and I could not submit to him. God clearly spoke to me and said ‘I will teach you how to love him and I will teach you submission.” God also spoke these words clearly to my spirit ‘The man you see today is not the man he will become’ that was enough reassurance for me and I agreed to marry Tunde.
On my wedding day, I got to the church one hour before the service was due to start. People tried keeping me in the car saying it was not right for the bride to be ahead of the groom, but that was just a cultural opinion. I told them I had an appointment with God and I was not going to be late. I was that convinced and I have never been that convinced about any other decision in my life. My husband wept like a baby during the service because he was simply overwhelmed by the Power of God to perform His Word. On the other hand I stood there beaming from ear to ear! If I quarrel with my husband, and it’s not resolved soon, my day will be completely ruined and the same goes for him. Once I quarreled with him, I was destabilized so much so I crashed the car.
My life prior to meeting my husband definitely was living outside of my passion, because my passion is tied to the life I have with him, sharing same goals, same vision and same passion.
Why do you think most people give up on their dreams? What is your advice to those who have?
A lot of people do not seek God’s face. Was it your plan or God’s plan? Walking in God’s plan requires standing in faith. Delay does not mean denial. If God shows you the big picture, what then do you need faith for? But God wants you to trust him in every step. Little faith steps leads to the bigger picture for us. There was a time when God gave us Psalm 37 for our break through. We were attacked on our business and we had a choice of giving up on our business or hanging on to his word for us. We carried on because we heard from God as a result of which, when our victory came, we were in the papers with two awards granted within one week of our opening up at a different location. You have to find a word from God. Even when it came to child bearing, I remember my husband praying if the children are not going to serve God, then close my wife’s womb.
My advice to those who have given up on their dreams will be, to go back and seek God’s face for clarity before proceeding and once you know what cause to follow, do not delay.
What major life lessons have you learnt?
Cleaving to God and cleaving to one another is the success of a good marriage.
Imagine you were to address a group of people who have hired you to make their life the most successful it can be, what questions would you ask them to ask themselves to realize their dreams?
What is your relationship with God? This is because life without God is a hard life and for me God is a shortcut to success. I cannot isolate God out of the picture and so I can only advice based on my experience, and it is centered on God. My progress since the last 10 years has been exponential.
What legacies do you have or plan to leave behind?
- Legacy of faith.
- Legacy of a marriage, that works. – enjoying your marriage. I mean enjoying everyday life because for me I come home and I feel like, I have entered paradise.
How would you want to be remembered when you are done and gone?
A person who loved, and served God and enjoyed it.
Now you have read someone else’s account of her life. I challenge you as a woman or man reading this, to look beyond your present position, hurt, pain or disappointments that you may have experienced in life and start today, to take stock of what you have as a person. Your personality, gifts, resources – mental, physical and emotional to consolidate them to making a positive and permanent change in your life, to become a better and fulfilled person. Experiencing the joy, that comes with helping people especially those who cannot pay you back.
I would love to hear how this has affected you and your immediate circle of influence. Please share your experience and comment below. Also share my posts with your friends and family, you never know whose life will be changing next.
ThAT’s JuSt THe WaY It iS